Was the decision right to spend so much money on the vacay trip next summer? Will it be nice weather there? Can I stay away for twoweeks from my job? What if my friends plan spontaneous fun trips, I won't be able to join them? Ahhhh!
My thoughts were driving me crazy until I realized: I have FOMO. This new phenomenom is a concomitant to social media and means in the full version: "The fear of missing out". Oh yes: Instagram, Facebook etc. heat it up.
Not only do I live in the past (aka bad or right decisions) and in the future (how will it be?), but also in the digital non-existent reality. Another hurdle to not live in the present, the here and now.
I caught myself to always focus on others, on my past decisions and what the future will bring. And often I forget to just inhale and enjoy this present second. Be joyful for the moment I am just experiencing. And most important: To feel.
This is so important, because we don't remember moments if we don't feel them.
A harvard study proves that people who don't digress easily are happier. But it is so hard to live in the very moment.
That's why I thought about some points to live the moment with more consciousness:
Believe me, it is so cool to go out with yourself. I went on a date with myself a few times in the past months and it was the best thing I could have done. You focus more on the play, on the people around you, the food. Don't get me wrong, I love spending time with my loved ones. But taking time for ourselves is so important too.
I try to get up 15 to 30 minutes earlier than usual and start the day easy and calm. I make my coffee, close my eyes after taking the first sip and just enjoy the moment. On my way to the office I try not to think about the upcoming working day.
I am a pro in repressing bad feelings. What I do now is to allow bad emotions. I reflect and accept stressful situations. Being late for an appointment is not the end of the world. I also try to not let other people transfer their bad energy on me. It is their problem, not mine. I can try to help them by being with myself and calm. But I will not absorbe their emotions.
I listen to my friends and don't interrupt their stories with my own experiences. It's their life and I can't compare myself to their situation. How often do we just listen? I keep in mind, that I don't have to have a solution every time.
And one of the most difficult things nowadays: Putting the phone aside and focus on the person next to me or on the things I am doing. I try not to check my Instagram account or react at every "bing".
Everything happens for a reason and it is this very moment that brings me a step further in what I become in the future - may it be tomorrow or in a year. I want to be more aware of this magic and thankful for the small joyful breaths.
And now inhale and exhale. And smile :)
Have a great easter Monday everyone!